The instamum series… @she_plusfive

I would love to share a lovely mumma of four, Brenda is such an inspiration I have followed her on Instagram for quite some time now and I’m absolutely smitten with her lovely family!

Tell me a little bit about yourself and your family?

I was born and raised in Mexico. Moved to the USA when I was 13 and have lived here ever since. I married in 2010 and have four beautiful children, expecting number five due in June 2018. We are a homeschooling family, we embrace simple minimal living and encourage our kids to be nature oriented as much as possible.

Did you always want to have a big family?

Yes! Ever since I was little I dreamed of being a mother, and I always knew I wanted more than three kids.

Do you children fight? How do you deal with it?

I haven’t met a set of siblings who don’t haha! I will say though when they have their little quarrels it’s usually because of sharing issues, and not taking turns. It really varies depending on who I’m dealing with at the moment. Each one of my kids is so unique that I have to use different approaches with each one. My son for example, we put him in time out for about ten seconds inside a closet and he comes out ready to apologize and move on. For my oldest daughter a simple look will do the trick. I feel like my parenting style is pretty gentle and I do my best to respect and validate their feelings.

What is your favourite thing to do with your children?

Cuddling is by far my most favorite thing. They share stories, or tell me what they’ve read, or simply letting me play with their hair and snuggle. It recharges me.

Do you think it’s important to give the children 1 on 1 time?

Very much so. And for a large family like us it is definitely something we have to put a lot of effort into. I try to spend as much time as I can with each one individually but sometimes it isn’t possible to do so. When the younger ones nap, I focus on my oldest daughters.

What is the most important to you when it comes to bringing up your children?

Our faith. My job as their mother is to mold their characters for eternity. I want them to love The Lord with all their soul and mind and strength.

How do you balance home life? There’s a lot of washing involved! Are you super organised or do you just wing it?

There is no balance really. Every day is so different from the next. My husband and I make a pretty good team though. We both do laundry, we both do dishes. Whoever has the time and is available does it without being asked.

Do you make time for yourself and do you and your husband get to spend time together?

I recently started working out 30 min a day and it’s made a huge difference in my mood. Even something small like a 15 min bath, or a hot shower, or even a trip to your favorite store without kids can be huge! Hubby and I try to leave a couple hours for mom alone time every week (for everyone’s safety haha) As far as dates together, that’s hard. There’s only a handful of people we would let watch our kids and schedules often work against us. We try to be intentional when we’re together at home.

Do you enjoy pregnancy?

I do enjoy it! All my pregnancies have been amazing. No throwing up, no morning sickness, no pain. With this one I had some hip pain but going to the chiropractor helps a lot. I crave a lot of sweet stuff with this baby! Donuts, cakes, pastries! I don’t give into my cravings often because I’m trying to stay healthy but I do crave sweets.

If you could give 3 tips to any mother/ father out there what would they be?

1.Put the phone down.

2.Laugh more.

3.Give yourself more grace and embrace your parenting style without comparison.

The newest addition will be arriving any day now and I personally think what a lucky baby to be joining a family clearly full of so much love!

What an inspiration!

Check out Brenda on Instagram her page is full of love and creativity! @she_plusfive

Thankyou Brenda and good luck with your new addition xxx

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